什么是爱？ 你能回答这个问题的那一刻，按定义就不是爱。 你可以说出自己为何爱着某人，比如笑容之类。这些细节，只有在你已经爱上对方时，才显现为爱的理由；在旁人眼里，它们只是寻常特征。 真正激进的爱，只朝向一个人。多边恋（Polyamory）不是真爱。说「因为你满足了我的需要」，并不准确。那只是迫切的不可能。我不能没有你……这便通向独一性。 真爱不是理想化。你预料到对方所有细小的不完美，并因此更爱这个人。 The moment you can answer it is by definition not love you can say why you're in love, like smile and so on, these details appear as cause of love only when you are in love. To others, they are ordinary features. True radical love is for one person. Polyamory is not true love. It wouldn't be right to say because you satisfy my needs. It's simply an urgent impossibility. I cannot be without you...leads to singularity. True love is not idealization. You expect all the small imperfections and you love the person even more because of this.